Accepting Necessary Loss
Somewhere along the way, we compromised our dreams and aspirations so we could be accepted. Typically by the time we hit thirty years old, our dreams are often no longer accessible. We have a mid-life existential crisis in our forties to try to reclaim them. In our fifties and sixties, we try to recreate them with nostalgic experiences.
This giving up what is most important to us is a primary source of loss of purpose and depression for many of us.
Intellectually it makes sense to rekindle the dreams of our early years. It's a great idea. Unfortunately, it just doesn't work. Why not?
The time to have those experiences of our dreams and aspirations is gone. They were specific to that time in our life. They were based on our consciousness and the circumstances of our life and the world at that time. It is impossible to recreate.
Coming to terms to this is accepting necessary loss. It is accepting that the time and opportunity to have those experiences has past. And feeling its loss.
We can however have a new experience of our dream, but it will be totally different at this age, in this world, and with this consciousness. So what is your dream now?
Life can get wider and wider- not narrower and narrower. All you have to do is open your mind to possibility.
Posted on Tue, March 8, 2016
by Michael Hoffman