When traveling into the unknown and trying something new, things can get overwhelming and discouraging at times. There are set-backs and failures. This is the time that fear and self-doubt sets in. The largest danger of indulging your fear and doubt is that you stop doing what you need to do. Fear tends to immobilize you.
So the remedy is to keep moving forward. Take another step. One more. Keep taking action. You can acknowledge the fears, doubts and concerns as you move forward. Say to yourself, “OK, this new plan is majorly flawed, but I going to keep moving forward”. Brush yourself off and say, “Well that last thing didn’t work, so what else can I try?
"A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step." Lao Tzu
When you keep moving forward, you will often find that a day or two later things shift. The fear and doubt dissipate on their own. The dynamic of your movement reveals then to be the illusions that they are. And something new opens up.
It is the best way to manage a panic attack- to do something. While you are freaking out, do the next thing that needs to be done. Taking action breaks the energy and immobilization of the anxiety (or fear).
So the potential tragedy is to stop or give up- to allow your fear to immobilize you. And this often happens just before that needed breakthrough was about to come.
I have seen this so many times in the people I work with. They empower their fear. Despite my pleading for them to continue, they say, “No, I’m done.” It has this willful energy of “Nope, you lost your chance. I am out. “ It is so sad to witness. Often there is no talking them out of it.
So my new approach is to not talk yourself out of it. Agree with it, “You are probably right, it likely won’t work. But just for the hell of it, take another step to see what would have happened.“
Can you think of a project or dream that you can keep moving forward with?
Posted on Sat, October 11, 2014
by Michael Hoffman filed under