Openness is perhaps the most fundamental element of establishing a natural way of being in our culture. But being open takes courage. It may leave us feeling vulnerable. Many of us follow the lead when someone offers us openness, but hesitate when it comes to being open when others are not. We are selectively open.
Being selectively open makes sense if you do not have the skills to walk openly, but we need people to model openness when it is not the norm.
Finding a place that is safe to express and experience your heart is essential to walking with your heart open. But after you acquire some experience and skills to walk openly, it is essential to take your openness out into the world so that other people can observe and experience it.
It can be daunting to let your light shine in an environment when everyone is playing it safe. People may look at you like you like you are strange. And from their perspective, it is strange. Observing you being open likely feels strange and uncomfortable to them.
But if you stay with it and people get to see that it is natural and grounded, they begin to see its value. And then one day at work, she takes a risk and comes out to play. She experiences the openness and freedom. And nothing terrible happens. Pretty soon you have a friend to be open with. And then another. After all, openness is infectious.
But someone has to take the initial risk of being open. Someone has to be open even when it is not the norm or status quo. And if not you, who? People may shake their head or even look at you with fear. Just smile at them openly and invitingly.
Posted on Thu, February 18, 2016
by Michael Hoffman filed under