Wanting to Know

When approaching an experience, we tend to preconceive what we want to happen and then push for the experience to unfold in that manner. We try to create a desired outcome.

But what if this is backwards? Bart Anderson taught that the only clear intention is to see what's there. So rather than trying to force something to happen, what if our intention was to see happens? To discover what the outcome will be.

It may seem like a subtle distinction, but it makes all the difference in the world. So the boy asks the girl out- not to get her to go out with him, but rather to see what she will say. The first is controlling the outcome, while the second is the desire to know.

The pure intention of wanting to know comes from the inquisitive mind. It just wants to know. The inquisitive boy says, "Wow, I feel something toward that girl, I wonder if she feels something back? I am going to go find out." That is the pure intention of wanting to know.

So we go to the job interview to experience if it feels like a good fit- not to get a job.

We go to a business meeting to discover the possibilities, not to close a predetermined deal. Going in open to see what's there allows us to see greater opportunities we would not have seen had we gone in with a specific agenda.

Besides, forcing an outcome is a bit arrogant. It saying that I know better than life (or God or Spirit) what the outcome needs to be. The outcome that you can see is probably much more limited than the possibility of what might unfold if you surrender to the experience.

So having an honest experience is like dancing with life. It is saying, "I am curious about this. I wonder what life will offer back if I offer this?" The back and forth is the dance. That is co-creating. That is experiencing the great mystery.

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